Togetherness

Togetherness

After discussing altruists and the greater good,I would like to discuss about a topic called Togetherness.Togetherness doesn't imply to just married people.Being together also involves friends,companions,co-workers,colleagues,and even our own family.

As human beings,we were born alone with the exception of certain people who were born together with their twin brother/sister. ;) .Since then,we were taught many values about how important family is and some of us follow it to our coffins.From the beginning we have been together with many people and inspite of its many shortcomings,togetherness has helped us overcome many obstacles and difficulties.Right from speaking our national/state language to passing out of college with a graduate/post-graduate degree,everything has been or will be achieved through togetherness.Life becomes much easier and very less complex through togetherness but with it comes a lot of mental and emotional problems leading to a craving for solitude.

Nagging forms the major cause of these problems.The person nagging wants to get his/her job done,but he/she believes that will do it only after a certain degree of persuasion.Nevertheless,it annoys even the calmest of people.Going beyond nagging,emotional blackmail is the worst enemy to togetherness.It is our emergency desperation move which causes a lot of hurt to the person we use it on.Together would get torn to shreds if this blackmail is used for a long time.It destroys the belongingness and makes the person facing the blackmail feel like he/she's bound to a social contract with manipulative terms and conditions.

Inspite of all this,togetherness is still our best weapon.Togetherness is always special when its new but its always strong when its ancient.Yes,I will explain that :P.When we form a new group in our workplace or college,we get excited but we are aware that this group is not trustworthy.While with older ones,its far less exciting and quite tedious to maintain but its the trust in that group that keeps us together.

The best kind of togetherness is in a marriage.A married couple,if well suited for each other, form the best team for their home.Each of them can focus on making up for the other's shortcoming and have a successful time building their own family.Again the above mentioned rule applies to couples too,but here the togetherness is trustworthy even when its new if they know each other well.

Togetherness is the reason we have managed to create global empires (Read MNCs),various G-summits,NGOs,etc and things can only get better.So,whenever you get a chance to befriend someone,never hesitate because you never know what the team of you both could end up achieving.Alone,we are nothing.

P.S:This post of mine is inspired by the recent marriage of my best friend and my interactions with her hubby  :P .

Sayonara.Happy Monsoon.