TRUST

TRUST

Ever thought why we have used this word a lot.Especially,when we are describing our ideal life partner,the word 'trust' comes up a lot.There are a few categories of trust which I have found in people.Of course,what I have found out can be incomplete or even wrong,but its my observation and I find it to be meticulously pertinent.

 The First Category that I would like to point out would be Sympathy.Sympathy is that, if provided in the right amount and at the right time ,helps us control our emotions.Many people misuse sympathy and often search for situations to gain sympathy and feel better about themselves.Sympathy also creates a very bad sense of trust on the person sympathizing in us.The person might be genuinely concerned but in most cases,the concern is superficial in case of sympathy.The person sharing his problems gets a feeling of trust in the person listening to him/her.This trust creates a false sense of comfort zone in which the scope of self-improvement reduces for the complaining person.Such kind of trust should be avoided as much as possible.

Second in this category would be Companionship.Companionship here is related to friends and acquaintances.Friendlessness generally causes the above mentioned false trust.But,companionship creates a sense of trust which is quite fragile.We believe when we give a lot to our friendship, we expect to receive something similar in return.And if we don’t get it,we become dejected with that person and the trust is broken.This kind of trust can be maintained by lowering our expectations from a particular person and accepting our friends the way they are.

Third comes a close cousin of the above reason,Relationship.Relationships take us to an another dimension of the world where in the beginning,everything feels hunky-dory.But later,reality strikes and if the couple does not have a common goal besides their relationship, they will have to face a lot of complications and problems within and outside the relationship.The relationship which was built around the mutual trust breaks down for some reason and misery takes over eventually ending the relationship.

Fourth has some part to play in a successful social life,Respect.Respect is a very rare attribute which people often forsake in important situations.Respect for some person sprouts due to that person’s idealistic and iconic characteristics.Trust automatically dawns for this person when we follow him/her as a role model and our goals achieved by following the ideals of that person.This trust stays for some time as long as the iconic person in question remains in a respectable position.Once he/she loses that position of respect,our trust gets wavered and principles get shaken.It is possible to retain this trust by making sure that we get attached to the principles of the person and not the person himself.Idealistic principles may change over time but our trust in them won’t.

Last but the most important kind is,Discipleship.Discipleship of the right kind begins with complete surrender to the master or the preacher in question.This surrender enables the student to gain knowledge without using much of his intellect.We may reflect on that knowledge,doubts may arise too,but keeping the faith over a period of time builds a high level of trust which is very difficult to break.A high level of devotion and respect for the master and also for the subject/topic under which the student is gaining expertise in will help him/her in achieving their goals.If this trust breaks,its difficult to cultivate back but again focusing on the bigger picture,which in this case is the knowledge gained will help in maintaining the trust.

This is my first post,and as I mentioned before I may not covered all the kinds of trust that exist.But all kinds of comments are appreciated.Please avoid spamming in the comments section.