A Frustrated Pipebomb

A Frustrated Pipebomb

Its been a long time since I wrote on the blog and though I have millions of excuses to justify myself,I feel I finally got a topic to write about.Again,these are my views and my experiences which I wish to share.So, don't take it too personally.

What picture comes in your mind when someone says 'A 23 year-old guy'? Hot, handsome, smart, qualifications maybe but no one ever thinks beyond this.And even if they do, its related to sexual excitement and past relationships and though these questions come up for self-protection purposes, never has anyone actually thought what it is like to be a guy in the ages of 23-28.

In general, leaving aside the exceptionally gifted ones who finish their graduation at 21 and start working at 22 and get married at 23 and have kids the very next day (Obvious sarcasm), others find the road to socially-mandated and comforting family life to be testing. That one person who will make you happy and understands you will be found after immense penance but for guys, our search begins quite early.

We start searching at an age where we don't even know how to run a house. But, believe me ,we start out with a noble purpose. But, the fact that friends in a group have told their stories in a much more achieving and boastful way causes peer pressure which shifts our priorities. The search for a soul-mate changes to search for a sex-mate. Inability to control physical feelings coupled with fore-mentioned peer pressure causes this and many end up making grave mistakes.

And in our late teenage we miss the ship we so desperately wanted to catch and be in .Yes, we guys do stare a lot, we do discuss about the physique (for the lack of am better word) of women in a crass or disgusting way. But, we don't mean to harm then in any way. Judge us by how we behave with and around you. Judge us for the intentions we have when we speak to you. But, not by the general assumption that society has placed on us.

When we do discuss about you,it is only our sexual frustration coming out and the discussion isn't meant to harm you or your reputation. There will come a time when we will be over this frustration but it is not upto us. We are going through a phase and it will be over someday. If we had a choice we won't choose this phase. Watching our classmates getting married, committed, engaged,have kids, etc. is enough to piss us off in our eary 20's. Not because we can't have them, but the sheer fact that our friends are moving ahead and we are at a stagnant position in our lives is enough to drive one to frustration.

And not just that, if I am a person who isn't involved in any addictions or one night stands, I will hate the fact that I am single inspite of these qualities. Add these things to job pressure and social anxiety and I get a good enough reason to drive me into depression. Couple this with the fact that I find people around me are getting committed and happily carrying on with their childhood sweethearts. When I was a child, the only sweetheart I knew was food. Amazing how people stick to people so long and the fact we can't or not able to do so is enough to drive us sick.

So, just forget this crap and if you like me are frustrated, relax, everyone is in the same boat looking for a comfortable ship and for the girls reading this, yes we are shameless, sexually excited morons but we do have integrity and self-respect and we go through a lot in life too. Please bear with us and give us a chance to prove that we aren't animals atleast the ones you know definitly deserve a chance.

Good Night!!