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In the past two weeks since I published the last post, I have been hearing a lot of relationship issues and excitement along with loads of marriage announcements. With so much news and stories in my mind, I thought I would discuss a few Do's and Dont's for the singles and the mingled.
1. Give them time
If you like someone and are somehow in regular touch with them, take your time to get to know the person. The common mistake everyone does is to rush into sharing their feelings to the person. This destroys any possible relationship that you might have had with them. Unless, of course, if you know them for years and they also secretly like you. But that is a slim possibility and shouldn’t be related to in all cases. When you take your time, you not only establish your dignity and your non-desperate personality but also give yourself time to check whether the attraction is just physical or emotional.
In a relationship, this point is very important. Since you have committed to your partner, you are supposed to be loyal and faithful. This is not a trait that is easily available and should be given time to imbibe within your partner. Same goes for sex. As any sexual activity increases comfort by exponential levels, some relationships might not have yet reached that level of mental comfort or maturity to handle the physical comfort and should be given time to fester.
2. Give them freedom
Freedom is essential for every human being. Once we reach our teenage, we crave for some freedom from our parents because we believe that we deserve it at this age. One of the things we want that privacy for is to choose our own life partner. It’s a funny thing that while we crave for this privacy we enslave the person we crave it for. Anything that is held too tight will always look to fly away. It is a known fact that when you hold sand tightly in your hands, it slips away faster. The more you restrict a person, the more they would want to taste the forbidden fruit. If you like someone, treat them with a little nonchalance. This will not only make them see your large heartedness early on itself but also lets you explore the other options incase your crush gets crushed by someone else.
In a relationship, this point gains much more prominence. Freedom is the base of a relationship. It is the definition of a character of any person. If you give your partner space to be themselves and do what they want, you will see what they do when they are let go. What they do during this time is what defines them and will further show the level of compatibility between the two of you leading to an early decision on whether to stay together or leave.
3. Give them the bigger picture
When love strikes, its hard to look beyond each other into life and its many responsibilities. So it is essential to have a bigger picture in mind. As a single person, having a crush on someone and never leaving a chance to brag about yourself will only tire your crush and make them lose interest in you. Instead, choose a common ground and focus on it to develop familiarity with each other and use this platform to exhibit your talents and skills.
In a relationship, the bigger picture is equally essential. Getting committed because your best friend has a partner doesn’t make any sense. There should be an ability to distinguish between what you want and what you need. Going for a relationship in desperation will leave you without one very soon. So, when dating begins and the relationship is in its embryonic stages, it is easy to get lost in the comfort of love. But this is the time when you have to give yourself a bigger goal. Something larger which not only makes you focus on the responsibilities but makes you achieve it too. Marriage should be one of the first bigger pictures in any relationship followed by career growth and even charity. This will ensure that the relationship lasts the test of time and ends up achieving all its goals. A relationship without a bigger picture will implode very soon.
4. Give them the truth
In singlehood, when you are faced with the dilemma of telling the truth or lying, take the difficult route and be truthful. This establishes you as an honest person who can be trusted and will not resort to lies for his/her own convenience. It is very difficult to follow this path as it is courageous to tell the truth while a lie escapes our lips quite easily. So when faced with this situation of telling your crush the truth about yourself or your attraction for them, do it. Do not make false stories and take them for a ride. Although it is easier to lie, it is very difficult to maintain it over a period of time. Truth is simpler, final and has hardly any repercussions.
The truth is even more difficult to say in a relationship especially when you know that the truth will end it. This is one more reason to be honest because this will give you an idea whether your relationship is strong or just standing on pieces of sticks - Fragile, delicate and can be destroyed at any time. Truth builds trust in a relationship and makes it stronger for the years to come. Truth is the building block to the tower that is your relationship.
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