Influence – Good and Bad!

Influence! The word itself has been used in so many different situations for so many different purposes. Yet it has such profound effect on our life.

In our career, we look towards someone for inspiration and have a predefined plan in our minds as to how our career should pan out. But this depends on who influences us and how he/she influences us. The person we turn out to be depends on how we are being treated at our workplace.  For example, if your immediate reporting manager is a downright insecure person who has difficulty trusting and imparting the necessary knowledge that you might require to progress in your career, the odds are you might also become the same insecure person because that’s what you have seen and that way of working becomes a general impression about the corporate world for you.

You must have heard the popular saying,”Don’t chose a good job, chose a good boss.” It completely holds true in today's world as a good boss holds the key to your career where in you can not only develop yourself in a better way but also help in developing future young talent because the same was done to you. All depends on how you have been groomed. Some argue however, that inspite of being treated harshly, they still make sure they don’t treat their successors in the same way. This, of course, is quite unique and exceptional and should be done wherever possible.

Now going from career to relationships, even relationships in many ways depend on the kind of influence that someone had on us since our childhood. This influence happens at home through our parents and how they treat each other. My friend recently told me about her cousin who doesn’t get along with her mother well because she has seen her father abuse her mother so much that she has the idea in her mind that her mom deserves that kind of treatment. Thus, wouldn’t it be better if parents, old or new, could sort out their differences in a much mature way where in the integrity and respect for either parent doesn’t reduce in the child’s eyes?

This also effects the child’s perception of the outside world, as he/she is prone to treating the next person he/she is associated with, the same way. He/she will consider this the most appropriate course of action as that is the scenario he/she has witnessed throughout his/her life. Thus, what your child turns out to be is heavily dependent on how you treat your better half and others around you.

Finally, we come to company and associations. The company we keep decides what kind of person we will turn out to be. If your friends encourage you to be brave and make the right choices, your life will be full of calculated risks and good decisions while any bad influence will make sure you will learn many lessons. The right kind of company is very important as it has the power to raise you up or pull you down. And we as aspiring socializers, tend to fit in to a group by doing exactly what they do right from addictions to social media posts.

The best example for this would be the ALS ice bucket challenge. The premise behind the whole challenge was to build awareness among people about ALS or Lou Gehrig's disease and find a cure where in prominent celebrities would dump an ice bucket on themselves and encourage others in their social circle to do the same and at the same time, contribute an amount to ALS cure research.  If they refuse to take the challenge they would have to donate more than the prescribed minimal that was associated with the challenge. However, social media caught on to this in the absolute wrong way possible as people simply dumped ice buckets and tagged others just to show off and these people had no idea about the donations which need to be made in the challenge. So many videos were posted about this challenge that it was saddening to see how selective we are in hearing or knowing about things and how easily we catch up to doing something that makes us look ‘cool’ or normal in others eyes.

In conclusion, all that can be said is that a lot depends on how you behave and who you get influenced by. So, choose your role models, mentors carefully and treat your subordinates, life partners, juniors and children with respect and love because your behavior will ultimately impact their life and how it shapes up. And it also depends on you how they will remember you; as a person who should be followed or a person who should never ever be followed. 

Chauvinistically Yours

Recently, my friend revealed her experience with her colleagues in her previous job and how isolated she became without doing anything wrong. The story was so disappointing that I immediately felt like sharing with as many people as possible, so that they could know how chauvinistic both men and women could be.

My friend, named Radhika Nimkar, used to work at an international recruitment firm where in she used to work on different projects on hiring people for certain foreign organizations. The colleagues as such were quiet young and helpful, and ambience in the office was very lively. Amongst this Radhika happened to interact with her team leader, who used to sit next to her in the office. Ankit Rane had been working in the company for the last 2-3 years and was appointed team leader in 2015. Since then, he has been guiding a few people under him one of which was Radhika.

Radhika and Ankit got along very well. In due course of time, Ankit used to flirt with Radhika  after knowing that she is single and used to speak on a daily basis. Suddenly, the manager decided to undertake a new project and Ankit was asked to take charge of it. He had to move to Dubai and was preparing for the same. On his last day here, Ankit told her that he will miss talking to her and he wished she came along with him. Radhika told him that even she would miss him and it wouldn’t be fun without him present. A few days later, Ankit left for Dubai and from there he used to contact Radhika through messages saying how much he likes her and she wouldn’t know what to reply.

Then the other day, one of her colleagues, Hiral, came to her and told her that she wanted to talk about Ankit. She asked if anything is going on between the two of them and Radhika replied by denying it saying that she has no other feeling for him other than as a friend. Hiral then told her how they were dating for 6 years and how they were planning to get married soon. This was a shock for Radhika as she thought Ankit was single and that’s why he was flirting. Hiral also told her that Ankit mentioned to her about how Radhika likes him and how much desperate she is to get married to him. This was even more shocking as she never behaved with him in that way or showed any interest in him.

Soon, Hiral spread her story in the entire office calling Radhika a ‘relationship-breaker’ and a ‘side chick’ among other things. Radhika was getting accused without any reason as no one wanted to believe her side of the story. Everyone believed Hiral and Ankit as they thought the couple is speaking the truth. Radhika even showed Ankit’s expression of love through his messages and tried to convince that he was cheating on her and not the other way round. But Hiral refused to believe her and she felt that Radhika was manipulating and breaking her and Ankit up.

Everyone slowly stopped talking to her, calling her names behind her back and spreading rumors to get along with everyone in the office. Radhika felt completely isolated and she decided to leave the company feeling it was better to leave than continue with such chauvinistic people. Even after proving that she was not interested in him, she was vilified and told that even if Ankit behaved that way, she should have known that she is a girl and should have been in her limits.

When did the rules of dating change for men and women. I would rather say that women have been vilified since a long time just because they don’t speak to each other and that’s something that guys take advantage of. Only with better communication and lesser jealously can women deal with such nonsense and fulfill their ambitions in the workplace. You never know how shameless your team-leader or boss is, so stay away and maintain a distance to avoid the circumstance of leaving the job. Because the world as of now is not ready to agree that a woman can be a victim rather than a trouble maker.

Doctored

It has been a very eventful week indeed in the medical field for India, with the doctors going on a strike for the whole week with the strike ending only in the wee hours of Saturday morning. Though, I felt that doctors being attacked and not provided subsequent protection was ridiculous, I have collected the whole story below and included my opinion on the whole thing at the end about what the situation is and what needs to be done.

The Cause of the Strike

On Monday, a doctor from sion hospital was beaten by the relatives of a patient whom he couldn’t save. This injured the doctor in question and and blinded him in his left eye. He suffered injuries to all parts of his body and this was the not the first time this happened. This was the third incident in a month in Maharashtra where the patient’s relatives beat up a doctor and injured him for not saving him/her. There have been at least 50 cases of doctors being attacked by patients' family in the last one year. 4,000 doctors went on an immediate strike in Maharashtra in protest and asking for better safety of doctors and reforms against patient visits. AIIMS and Fortis were the only ones functioning fully without any strike, though they condemned the assault and the doctors.

The Strike

The strike went on deaf ears in the first two days as not just politicians but even reporters made stupid statements like “God cures patients and doctor takes fees”. This statement was made by Uday Nirgudkar (No idea who he is) on the ongoing strike. Two days into the strike, on Wednesday, Maharashtra Education Minister Girish Mahajan threatened to deduct six months' salary form all the protesting doctors' pay checks if they did not get back to work by 8 pm that evening. Mahajan, apart from the threat, promised the doctors that 1,100 guards will be placed at government hospitals in a months' time. 

The Brihanmumbai Municipal Corporation (BMC) threatened to debar some 1200 protesting doctors if they did not quit the strike and returned to work. Meanwhile, Mumbai mayor Vishwanath Mahadeshwar promised to get civic hospitals at least 400 armed police personnel from Saturday for security. He said the number will be increased to 700 by April 1. The BMC is also said to have accepted the two-relatives-per-patient term, and promised to install alarm system in hospitals. Municipal Commissioners in Mumbai, on the other hand, have put into place a plan list to ensure protection of the doctors in the state.

Resident doctors from around 40 government hospitals, including Ram Manohar Lohia, Lady Hardinge Medical College, Safdarjung Hospital  in Delhi and around the NCR regiondid not attend work in support for the MARD. Even doctors at AIIMS extended support by wearing helmets at work. On Friday Delhi will witness strike of doctors even from Private hospitals. Sir Ganga Ram hospital on Thursday said, that extending support to the protesting doctors in Maharashtra, their OPD services will not be available on Friday. 

MARD doctors want all their demands to be accepted by the government. Meanwhile more than 1200 resident doctors of state and civic run various medical colleges of Mumbai received a notice to resume their duties or else face expulsion. In Nagpur 370 and in Solapur 114 resident doctors were expelled by authorities for going on unapproved leave and carrying out strike. IMA has assured all these resident doctors that they will intervene in this matter. IMA is also keen to have another round of dialogue with the government to resolve the issue of MARD doctors.

Maharashtra Chief Minister Devendra Fadnavis surged the protesting resident doctors to call off their strike on Thursday with a final ultimatum given on Friday night. Mr. Fadnavis promised to ensure their security in hospitals. 

The Casualty

BMC counsel Suresh Pakhale informed the court that 135 people have lost their lives in the three civic body-run hospitals (Sion, KEM and Nair) due to the resident doctors' strike since March 20. Nearly 60 percent of patients at Dadadev Mother and Child hospital could not get doctors consultation or treatment due to the protest. However, the emergency cases were somehow treated as resident doctors having duty in emergency department were not part of the protest. Out of the 5,400 OPD cards registered in Delhi government hospitals on Thursday only 25 per cent of patients could consult doctors. Over 800 surgeries across Delhi government and civic body-run hospitals were postponed, and also left thousands of patients in the lurch with OPD functions hit.

The Promises

• 700 security guards to be provided in five days

• Remaining security guards of the total 1,100 would be provided in 10 days

• Directions to provide armed guards and gate pass to relatives in hospital

• No punitive action against doctors if they join immediately

• Security panel with 3 resident members in every hospital

My Opinion

I believe the doctors were right in voicing their opinions by going on a strike. The resultant casualty caused reminded everyone why doctors are important and why they cant be held responsible for the patients addictions. The doctors do the best they can to treat someone and even they feel dejected on not being able to save someone. Imagine working day in and day out dealing with emotions of a patient’s family, considered a god if saved and a cheat if not. It is not easy and is made even more so by eccentric relatives who end up beating and assaulting doctors. 

On one hand, the tensions run high in the ICU because of the critical conditions of the patients while on the other, the high cost involved in private hospitals to treat the patient makes the family even more concerned. Losing the person along with the money makes them ridiculously wild. Major blame has to be handed out to the private hospitals for minting money on the expense of a dying patient. Many of the readers would have seen this in a recent movie or worst is to have experienced it in person. The doctor asking the family to put the patient in the ventilator knowing fully well that the patient stands no chance of making it alive seems like playing with the emotions of the family and builds the rage against such hospitals. Not all hospitals are like this of course, and not all doctors do this but if a doctor’s safety is called into question and if it should be made top priority then even fraudulent doctors in fraudulent departments should be suspended and debarred while blacklisting the hospital they work in. Same goes for doctors working under reservation, unqualified and absent minded ones too.

I believe doctors are not just instruments but the major reason for the rebirth of an individual from the jaws of death. Saving yourself from visiting the doctor is the best way to avoid your mortal fate because once you are at the hospital, the chances of your survival depends on the severity of your health and not on the skill of the doctor. More severe you are, more difficult the work is for the doctor to save you. The last 5 days proved why the doctors should be respected no matter which hospital they work for and their situation should be understood instead of branding them as culprits and assaulting them.

P.S All the data mentioned in the post have been collected from many news articles from prominent media. 

10 Misconceptions about the Gulf

1. Every citizen has an oil well

Though gulf is famous for its oil, the local citizens do not own oil wells. Atleast a majority of them don't. Income comes from government jobs which is high paying.

2. Electronic gadgets are extremely cheap

Gadgets in the gulf are not exponentially cheap. Only laptops are very cheap(in comparison with indian prices) while other gadgets are equal or more in price.

3. There is no winter in the Gulf

Because of the temperature being around 45-50s during summer, people have the notion that the gulf never has a winter season but the reality is something different. Temperatures dip to around 0-4 degrees during December upto January end with the temperature drop differing based on the region.

4. There are no taxes

Saudi has social security payment and capital gains tax. Bahrain has taxes on rented property and stamp duty on real estate transfers. Oman  and Kuwait have contributions to be made by citizens towards social security. Only UAE and Qatar have no taxes 

5. Alcohol is extensively available

Alcohol is available in UAE , Qatar, Bahrain and Oman but its strictly banned in Kuwait and Saudi Arabia.

6. Women are harassed 

Gulf has laws curbing the rights of women but they have strong rights towards women harassment. Yes, empowerment of women is happening slowly but not too far away.

7. Locals drink camel milk

Camel milk is produced in UAE and Saudi Arabia and has nutritional value but not so easily available.  Cow milk is consumed by the locals and camel milk is consumed on occasion to fulfil fetishes and cravings.

8. Dubai being a country

Dubai is one city amongst the many in UAE. It is one of the prominent ones in UAE and often mistaken for a country. And in the same vein, Saudi Arabia is a country and not a part of the UAE.

9. Infrastructure is mind-blowing

Public transport is not so well developed in any of the cities except Dubai. Roads are good because the Gulf depends on them majorly apart from airways. The only buses famous in the Gulf are the USBs (Universal Serial Buses)*Please Laugh*.

10. Arabs are rich and illiterate

The new generation of Arabs are well educated and literate and no different then the rest of the world. They are itching to shy away from the camel-riding, oil loving stereotype.

P.S : I have spent 5 months in the Gulf and ended up compiling this, I hope you enjoyed reading this! ;)

The Cupid and his ways

First, I would like to point out that my blog has crossed 3000 views and would like to thank all those reading it on a regular or periodic basis. Thanks a lot!

In the past two weeks since I published the last post, I have been hearing a lot of relationship issues and excitement along with loads of marriage announcements. With so much news and stories in my mind, I thought I would discuss a few Do's and Dont's for the singles and the mingled.

1. Give them time

If you like someone and are somehow in regular touch with them, take your time to get to know the person. The common mistake everyone does is to rush into sharing their feelings to the person. This destroys any possible relationship that you might have had with them. Unless, of course, if you know them for years and they also secretly like you. But that is a slim possibility and shouldn’t be related to in all cases. When you take your time, you not only establish your dignity and your non-desperate personality but also give yourself time to check whether the attraction is just physical or emotional.

In a relationship, this point is very important. Since you have committed to your partner, you are supposed to be loyal and faithful. This is not a trait that is easily available and should be given time to imbibe within your partner. Same goes for sex. As any sexual activity increases comfort by exponential levels, some relationships might not have yet reached that level of mental comfort or maturity to handle the physical comfort and should be given time to fester.

2. Give them freedom

Freedom is essential for every human being. Once we reach our teenage, we crave for some freedom from our parents because we believe that we deserve it at this age. One of the things we want that privacy for is to choose our own life partner. It’s a funny thing that while we crave for this privacy we enslave the person we crave it for. Anything that is held too tight will always look to fly away. It is a known fact that when you hold sand tightly in your hands, it slips away faster. The more you restrict a person, the more they would want to taste the forbidden fruit. If you like someone, treat them with a little nonchalance. This will not only make them see your large heartedness early on itself but also lets you explore the other options incase your crush gets crushed by someone else. 

In a relationship, this point gains much more prominence. Freedom is the base of a relationship. It is the definition of a character of any person. If you give your partner space to be themselves and do what they want, you will see what they do when they are let go. What they do during this time is what defines them and will further show the level of compatibility between the two of you leading to an early decision on whether to stay together or leave.

3. Give them the bigger picture

When love strikes, its hard to look beyond each other into life and its many responsibilities. So it is essential to have a bigger picture in mind. As a single person, having a crush on someone and never leaving a chance to brag about yourself will only tire your crush and make them lose interest in you. Instead, choose a common ground and focus on it to develop familiarity with each other and use this platform to exhibit your talents and skills.

In a relationship, the bigger picture is equally essential. Getting committed because your best friend has a partner doesn’t make any sense. There should be an ability to distinguish between what you want and what you need. Going for a relationship in desperation will leave you without one very soon. So, when dating begins and the relationship is in its embryonic stages, it is easy to get lost in the comfort of love. But this is the time when you have to give yourself a bigger goal. Something larger which not only makes you focus on the responsibilities but makes you achieve it too. Marriage should be one of the first bigger pictures in any relationship followed by career growth and even charity. This will ensure that the relationship lasts the test of time and ends up achieving all its goals. A relationship without a bigger picture will implode very soon.

4. Give them the truth

In singlehood, when you are faced with the dilemma of telling the truth or lying, take the difficult route and be truthful. This establishes you as an honest person who can be trusted and will not resort to lies for his/her own convenience. It is very difficult to follow this path as it is courageous to tell the truth while a lie escapes our lips quite easily. So when faced with this situation of telling your crush the truth about yourself or your attraction for them, do it. Do not make false stories and take them for a ride. Although it is easier to lie, it is very difficult to maintain it over a period of time. Truth is simpler, final and has hardly any repercussions.

The truth is even more difficult to say in a relationship especially when you know that the truth will end it. This is one more reason to be honest because this will give you an idea whether your relationship is strong or just standing on pieces of sticks - Fragile, delicate and can be destroyed at any time. Truth builds trust in a relationship and makes it stronger for the years to come. Truth is the building block to the tower that is your relationship. 

Did you like the post? If you did, just share this post to people who might need it and to those who don’t but still end up gaining a lot from it. Hope the 4 points help! ;)

Self-Made Man 2

The title of the blog sounds like a sequel to a blockbuster but I wont rule out that chain of thought. Its been a while since I posted anything, the reasons for which would take up a whole blog post in itself and as a result, won’t bore you with the same. In my last post, I had described how one of my best friends turned out to be a self-made man and how he has influenced my life. Today, I will touch upon another dear friend of mine who has turned out to be a self-made man.

Sachin Jagdale, was born and raised in a simple and poor maharashtrian family. He had one younger sibling, Sagarika. Sachin’s parents although well natured, had their own vices. Sachin’s dad had a job at a not-so-popular company with a low pay. It was difficult to make ends meet as Sachin’s mom didn’t earn either. She was a housewife out of the social stigma prevalent at that time against women working. As it was getting difficult to run the household with such a meagre income, his dad resorted to drinking and smoking to mask the pain. But as it so happens, the drinking was so severe that it resulted in his dad losing his job and sitting at home. This meant that by the time Sachin was 14, his dad was jobless and sitting at home. 

This made Sachin to choose between providing his family and completing his education. Sachin did a part time job getting paid around 60k per year along side his 10th grade education. He finished his education and choose to do a diploma in engineering with an eye at doing degree in the same field in the future. Sachin continued to work and slowly climbed the corporate ladder but due to lack of any relavent education, his pay scale remained the same. Sachin finished his diploma and got a job in a VLSI device manufacturing firm. Alongside this, he was suffering the pangs of adolescence as he saw his friends being in relationships. More than that, he had to sit through the accomplishments of his friends most of which involved them engaging in amorous activities with their other half. This created a sense of jealousy which could only be satisfied by engaging in a similar relationship with a girl. 

Sachin started talking to girls with the intention of being with them and relieving his family burden. He even started smoking and drinking to blend into his office groups. At the end of a year at the VLSI firm, he joined a college in Navi Mumbai to achieve a degree in Engineering. This would result in the stagnancy of income in his household but he countered that by making sure that his younger sister had a job to provide for the house. She was getting paid around 1.5 LPA which was still equivalent to a Hand-to-Mouth existence for the family.

Here, Sachin struggled because of his inability to focus on his studies. One of the reasons was his need for a companion who were never consistent because his family wasn’t a well to do one and basically, his choice in female companions were not good either. One of the girls found a special pleasure at being with Sachin even though she was engaged to another guy and used to call him home whenever her parents were not present. Sachin, being a believer of an asinine assumption that a guy can never refuse a girl who calls him home, used to visit her knowing the fact that she was dating someone else.

He somehow made it to the final year where he met me. I was finishing my engineering from the same college and happened to develop a friendship with him. Us along with two other guys, got along well and used to hangout after college hours. It is during these moments that I came to know about him. He used to discuss his family issues and girl problems with us. Coming from a background of hanging out with people who used to brag about themselves, Sachin developed the same knack. He used to brag about his accomplishments with multiple girls and though at first, we used to ask him to stop minutely describing his exploits and be faithful to a single girl, we later started being satirical with him about it. He never understood our remarks and considered them as praises and continued with his stories.

The final semester arrived and many of our colleagues were already placed with a small bunch left out. One of the guys in our group had also landed a job at a marketing company. The three of us were still without a job with Sachin heavily needing one because shortage of finance at his house. He used to be extremely stressed and discussed at length about his prospects if he didn’t land a job. As he had enough experience to show for in the corporate field, he went off-campus and applied for many jobs. One major electronic firm hired him and paid him around 4 LPA as starting salary with a promise on incentives. Sachin gladly took the job and even started working before our semester ended. His rigorous time without hope had ended and now he was looking ahead planning to save and improve his career.

Slowly, in about 2 years, he saved enough to renovate his house, get his sister married and currently is planning to save enough to invest in a new house. His current salary package amounts to 8.5 LPA which has enabled him to live a moderately luxurious life whilst providing for his family. The moment I realized his worth was when I had attended the wedding of his sister and he along with his parents were standing gleefully at the stage, attending guests and thanking them for their presence. Sagarika's wedding wouldn't have been possible if not for Sachin’s sacrifices and hard work. He had proved himself to be the man of the house even before he had physically become one. Sincerely hoping him to get tied down soon and start a life with wife and kids. Because when it comes to a Self-Made Man, accomplishing any daunting achievement is just a matter of time. Not just his story, but he himself will be a lesson to millions who are in much better positions as compared to him.

Self Made Man

In our journey through life, we come across a lot of obstacles which make us strong and become part of the many pages of our lifestory. But for some people, these obstacles were not an option or a learning experience but a sink or swim scenario. People call them by many names like the resilient folk or the guys who never quit but like to call them the self-made-men and I am grateful to have known two such guys in my life.

First we start with Ramesh Karkera, a mangalore born simple guy and a descendant of Mahatma Gandhi (only through behavior). Ramesh was born in a normal family but had to face hardships in the beginning itself. His dad had abandoned him and his family early on leaving them to fend for themselves. So his mom had to start working without an option. Same was the case with Ramesh who had to work in whatever job he got to make ends meet.Ramesh also had a younger brother which made it even more important to do some or the other job. So, alongside his graduation, Ramesh also worked part time at fast food chains (where he is recognized to this day).

Ramesh slowly started to get better paying jobs while finishing his graduation through references and goodwill. His graduation tale has its own curves and slopes. Ramesh started off as a science major but ended up shifting to commerce half-way through thanks to unwanted, unneeded and lousy advice from his relatives and so-called well wishers.This was a major USP of his teenage and adult life as he had to listen and act on his relatives advises as his mom used to get influenced by what they said. Anything that he failed at or didn’t perform well at made sure that the relatives will get their opinions out. So, shameless they are that they would scold for ours without even being considered in that position. Regardless, Ramesh fought tooth and nail amidst all this blaming game and finally, after finishing his B.Com degree sought to pursue C.A

This was a tough ask as CA was known to have a low passing percentage. But, this was a step he wanted to take through his own better judgement. He had to finish a period of 3 years of articleship under a practising Chartered Accountant which would also mean some income on the side. Ramesh joined a gujarati C.A firm (no stereotypes here) and thrived under all the cost cutting and profit making mindset. This was not helped in large part that majority of his colleagues in that firm were girls who were hell bent on professing their passion for him through devious means and lustful ideas. But this never wavered his focus.

There are two ways to ensure job security. One is to become indispensable by learning every single thing there is to learn so that the management can't even think about removing you. The other is of course to play dirty politics. Ramesh chose the former as he climbed the ladder of his career by becoming an integral cog in his firm’s wheel. His boss, who also was a Pervert and a Casanova, hardly rewarded his efforts and always churned productivity out of him. Ramesh took his time and excelled in his role whilst making sure he got paid atleast what was promised to him. With time, as people left the adult-rated (pun intended) firm, he grabbed the opportunities and increased his salary to a decent amount which if appropriated correctly would amount to 10 times the salary a guy practicing articleship should get.

All this while supporting his family, he had his teen-adult pangs which didn’t get fulfilled due to some reason or the other. In midst of his struggles he met me, who was involved in his own struggle to overcome personal relationship debacles. Together, we bonded helping and guiding each other to make better decisions one of which resulted in him pursuing a part-time MBA in a reputed institute while the other resulted in his compatriot being committed to an overseas job and a long-time friend (girl). Its funny how certain decisions you make about certain people shapes your entire life in the way you always wanted. And this was all possible because of the efforts of a self-made-man. For all the ladies, you can all like debonair and dashing guys who can wear brands and afford luxuries but if you want to be with a person who values people and money, date a self-made-man. He will never let you down and always treat you with respect.

There is nothing more inspiring than a self-made-man.

P.S : I know I said I knew 2 self-made-men but I could only get time to write about one of them. Will write about the other one soon.
Cheers!